Why Rebuilding Trust After an Affair Doesn’t Work

Trust is not the foundation…

An Unconventional Approach to Healing and Hope

Trust is not the foundation of a good marriage. Self is the foundation. Without a self, without knowing and trusting and being who you truly are, your marriage cannot heal and cannot function at its best.

After an affair, people often work tirelessly to rebuild trust. But what if their efforts are making trust less likely to emerge than more? Perhaps you’ve done everything you can to rebuild your relationship, but you still find yourself traumatized, lonely, and lost. Is there hope? Miriam Bellamy, LMFT has been working for 26 years with individuals and couples are are trying to recover from infidelity.

She has discovered that the elusive solution to rebuilding trust in a long-term relationship begins with a pause. It begins with an end. An end to all the trying, the forcing, the attempts to cajole trust into existence. Only when couples let go of what’s not working (whether the betrayed spouse or the unfaithful one), do they begin to experience the rebirth. The seven keys for unlocking the trust trap provide a guide for thinking, feeling, and movement forward out of repetitive cycles of conflict and distance into a freer and more honest relationship.

The Trust Trap© helps couples learn how to work through the 7 keys together.