Why Rebuilding Trust Right After an Affair Doesn’t Work
Why Pausing First is More Effective
An Unconventional Approach to Healing and Hope
Infidelity hurts.
It paralyzes, numbs, confuses, disorients, traumatizes, and ruins.
There is a particular agony for those who have been affected by infidelity; it hits like nothing else in marriage, or possibly, in all of life. This agony visits each partner differently, but it visits nonetheless. It’s like your heart and mind are on fire, and no matter where you turn, you can’t escape the burning. If you betrayed your spouse, you can’t undo what you’ve done, and you’re probably just beginning to realize the scope of the pain your actions have caused, both to your partner and to yourself. If you’ve been betrayed, everything you thought you knew about your life, yourself, and your partner, now likely feels wrong. The panic and desperation consume you at times, like a fire consumes a forest, and you…can’t…get…away from it.
If you are like most of my clients, you are probably working tirelessly to rebuild trust. Perhaps you’ve done everything you can to rebuild your relationship, but you still find yourself traumatized, lonely, and lost. Is there hope? I have been working for 27 years with individuals and couples to help you find that hope. To help you recover from infidelity-whether together or apart. Either way, you need YOU back, and that’s where our work begins.
It begins with an end. An end to all the trying, the forcing, the attempts to cajole trust into existence. Only when you can let go of what’s not working, do you begin to experience the rebirth. The Bridge Back provides a guide for reclaiming your SELF and a vision for what building a trusting alliance really looks like.
Hope after betrayal
The Bridge Back
Stop Trying to Save It
Stop Trying to Change the Way You Feel
Self-Trust
It's Bigger Than You
The Crisis of the Doghouse
Don't say yes unless you can say wow
The Only Way to Trust Someone
